By Published On: May 14, 2012Categories: Fear of Flying

Fear of flying — also known as aviaphobia — is an increasingly common issue. I have treated people who previously avoided flying at all costs, and others who would fly, however enduring significant fear, discomfort, anxiety, and nervousness in order to do so. What is it about the thought of airplanes that gets us so riddled with fear? Though accidents do happen, they are exceedingly rare, and when in-flight problems occur, the planes usually end up landing safely with no injuries. Flying is actually known to be the safest mode of transportation, yet it’s feared as if surviving a flight is pure luck .

First, how do you know if you have a fear of flying? There are several ways to figure out if this fear is impacting your life, the most obvious one being a simple refusal to fly on a plane. People who fear flying will often miss meaningful events in their lives — weddings, funerals, graduations, reunions, vacations, visits to friends and family, job interviews, as well as others types of formal or informal gatherings — if air travel is a necessary method of transportation. Some people structure their lives around the notion that flying will not be a part of it, meaning they may avoid significant relocation over the course of their lives — if the opportunity would otherwise be enticing — because moving may require flying as part of the process, whether for job purposes, housing search, or the move itself. Also, coming up with excuses to avoid traveling could be masking a fear of flying. If a trip sounds desirable but the flight is holding you back from going, this is an issue to look into.

Psychologically speaking, a fear of flying is often not a fear of crashing, even if it manifests as one. In fact, many people openly acknowledge that if the plane was flying 50 feet above the ground (without obstructions, of course) instead of 36,000 feet above the ground, they’d feel a lot more comfortable on a plane. Thus, the crash factor seems to be less concerning when we feel more grounded, and therefore, more in control. So the first component of this phobia is to understand that there are many possible roots to the fear of flying — lack of control, fear of heights/falling, feeling ungrounded, fear of enclosed spaces, difficulty with trust, fear of being trapped, fear of public panic/illness, etc. And it’s often a combination of issues, rather than just one. The concept of crashing is usually our symbolic catastrophizing of the actual issue. For example: Some people feel if they’re not in control of something that it will go wrong. So if we’re not flying the plane (or don’t understand how the plane or flying works), our feeling is that we will crash. (And chances are, our underlying causes of fear of flying manifest in other areas of our lives as well, but are magnified with flying).

This brings us to understanding phobias. Phobias are generally not based on logic. We may logically know something isn’t threatening, but still emotionally feel that it is threatening. We call these types of threats “perceived threats”. With an actual threat, we are actively in danger, and our “fight or flight” response kicks in so we can attack or find safety. For example: being trapped in a cage with lions and tigers would be an actual threat. With flying, it’s true that it is mathematically and humanly possible (even if only slightly) that a plane could crash, however, the likelihood is very remote. The level of emotional flooding that some people feel when flying on a plane would make it seem as if they are lucky to be alive when the plane lands safely — like they were locked in the cage with the lions and tigers (and bears, if you want to go there), and lived to tell. With a perceived threat, our “fight or flight” response kicks in even when we’re not actively in danger, leading to various physiological symptoms.

Another layer to uncover in the nervous flyer is the overactive imagination. Many people who fear flying suffer from the effects of an overactive imagination. People begin to fantasize of images they saw on tv, in movies, or make up their own creative images. It’s amazing the kinds thoughts that go through people’s minds when feeling out of control of a situation. Learning to tame an overactive imagination is one of the keys to conquering a fear of flying.

In addition, the media can also exacerbate fears that already exist, and create fears that didn’t previously exist. Airplanes are a golden topic for the media. Journalists know — the more we fear, the more we pay attention to the stories, and then the more we fear because we paid attention. The result is that we end up exposed to far more dramatic (and often un-news-worthy) airplane stories, as opposed to soothing stories that reinforce safety. The more we hear these stories, the more our fear of flying is reinforced.

To sum up, fear of flying is a common phobia, and there are many psychological factors that help create and strengthen this environment of fear. Now that we have a basic idea of what’s behind a fear of flying, we’ll move on to Part 2, which will discuss some myths about flying, as well as some strategies to help us manage our emotions before and during flight. Part 2 will also discuss the personalized and comprehensive method I designed — the Balanced Flying Method, created from a unique therapeutic perspective, specifically for conquering a fear of flying.

Learn more about fear of flying and how I can help you. 

Contact Nathan Feiles to inquire about therapy for fear of flying. 

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