Grass is Greener Syndrome & Therapy for Commitment Issues

Does it often seem like you end up disappointed, or are looking for more out of your relationships or life?

Do you notice yourself repeatedly starting over in your relationships, or career, or moving around frequently? Perhaps you flip-flop as a pattern, moving to a new relationship, or otherwise, and then eventually regret it, or wish you could go back to the previous person or place.

Maybe you struggle with feeling like the present isn’t fulfilling enough, often feeling like satisfaction is elsewhere? Or, maybe commitment is scary, and intimacy and sex can feel daunting or unsatisfying, often feeling at a distance in your relationships.

Perhaps fear of missing out—FOMO—follows you, often feeling like there is something better that must be out there that you urge to experience. You may even find yourself in affairs trying to find what you’re missing.

Or, maybe you struggle with making decisions, perfectionism, or high expectations that tend to leave you feeling unsatisfied and unfulfilled.

Grass Is Greener Syndrome, perfectionism, and commitment issues can be exhausting and frustrating.

One of my more unique specialties is helping people who struggle with Grass Is Greener Syndrome—a pattern of struggling to find satisfaction in the present, often resulting in starting over in various ways, often leading to regret or difficulty settling down. In your life, it may feel like you’re often missing out on something better, which can lead to a push-pull between what you have and don’t have—a feeling of needing the ideal you may be missing, or otherwise living a deeply disappointed and deprived life. This may lead to you repeatedly starting over and ending relationships (or tempted to) when the difficulties and disappointments start to show up, or when the euphoria drops out of the relationship, or perhaps wanting to change careers or geographic location, etc. In general, it may feel like nothing is quite good enough (even if it does at first), or that you will never feel satisfied enough to settle down. Perfectionism, difficulty making decisions, and FOMO, along with commitment and intimacy fears are often experienced in Grass Is Greener Syndrome.

You may eventually feel underwhelmed, bored, unsatisfied, depressed, hopeless, and more. Often in the grass is greener cycle, people can be in supportive and comfortable relationships, or job situations, or have strong communities around them, but are feeling pulled to a different life in order to achieve a higher satisfaction feeling, or to find a sense of intimacy that they can’t seem to find in the present. If this is something you struggle with, I would recommend therapy or coaching for Grass Is Greener Syndrome, which also includes therapy for perfectionism, commitment, intimacy, and more, as well.

You may experience some of these common characteristics of the grass is greener struggle: difficulty with commitment, or one foot out the door; intimacy and closeness struggles; trouble making clear decisions; urges to run from relationships (or in other ways sabotaging positive and healthy relationships); flip-flopping; difficulty being in middle ground or grey area states; pattern of looking for better or perfect relationships; chronic disappointment in people or life; depression or anxiety; low self-esteem or self-confidence; perfectionism; high to unrealistically high expectations; and more.

I aim to provide a safe place for you to be able to reflect, understand, explore, and work through the elements that are creating and upholding your grass is greener cycle so you can emerge to find satisfaction, happiness, and the ability to settle down decisively in your life.

I work closely with people who struggle with Grass Is Greener Syndrome. We will go at your pace in a safe and supportive process as we get to know and help you through the complexities that tend to underly these patterns. While many people who struggle with grass is greener patterns can feel stuck and even hopeless after repeated dissatisfaction and starting over in various ways in life, it actually is possible to come through the other end of this. Reach out to me to let me know how I can help you.

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