I believe that safety, genuineness, care, and support are at the core of an effective therapy. While I also believe trust is important in therapy, I’m aware that for many trust needs time to be established, and this is okay.
My approach is first to sit with you and learn about what you are going through and struggling with. I’m interested in getting to know you as a person, where you are coming from in your life, and what you’d like to address in our work.
It is also possible to come in for therapy not fully knowing what it is you’d like to change, or where it is you’re looking to end up. You may just know that you’re feeling anxious, uncomfortable, unfulfilled, or otherwise. This is okay and actually very common. These answers aren’t needed in order to start therapy, and often end up taking shape organically as the process moves forward.
How I Help
My foundation as a therapist is to increase emotional, psychological, and relational depth and insight while helping gain an understanding of those life patterns that are obstacles to progress. As part of this, I help facilitate a reflective process of self-discovery while dissolving emotional blocks that can keep you stuck internally, as well as in various areas of life. (While this may sound confusing or complicated, this all takes place through our conversations together and goes at your pace.)
As an integrative therapist, I also utilize a range of techniques along with relational psychotherapy, as appropriate. These can include affect regulation, grounding, focusing, mindfulness, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), and others.
The approaches we will use in our work are based on what makes most sense for you and are always decided together.
Nathan Feiles is an integrative psychotherapist and contemporary relational analyst in full time private practice in New York City. He works with individuals, couples, and groups locally, as well as with individuals nationally and internationally via online coaching.
All forms of Anxiety, patterns of Relationship struggles, specialized Fear of Flying method, Commitment issues, Infidelity (being cheated on, or cheating), Creative Blocks (for actors/actresses, visual and other artists), Depression, coping with life with Migraines. See all other services offered here.
Nathan Feiles earned his M.A. in Social Work (MSW) from New York University (NYU), and is licensed in clinical social work (LCSW) in both New York State and California, with the ‘R’ privilege in New York (the ‘R’ privilege allows people in NY state to utilize their out-of-network insurance benefits to work with Nathan).
Nathan has completed a 4-year postgraduate training in comprehensive psychotherapy and contemporary relational analysis at the National Institute for the Psychotherapies (NIP) in New York City where he remains affiliated today.
The Balanced Flying Method
In addition to his general psychotherapy practice, Nathan is also the creator of the “Balanced Flying Method”, which is a comprehensive and internationally recognized approach to helping people overcome fear of flying. This method has a unique and proven highly effective design. It is a structured method, however was created with the flexibility to integrate each individual person’s experience of fear of flying and life history to maximize efficacy. The makes it so the method is applied differently for each person, based on their own life. (For a simple illustration: imagine a MadLib. There is a structure of a story, but many blanks to fill in which changes the experience of the story for everyone who does the MadLib).
Nathan works with people all over the world to overcome flying anxiety via online coaching. His writings and interviews about the Balanced Flying Method are featured around the internet if you wish to learn more. Or contact Nathan to make an inquiry.
Articles & Interviews
Nathan has been a regularly featured writer on various areas of mental health and relationships on PsychCentral.com and TheMighty.com, and has also been a guest writer for Migraine.com for his work helping people emotionally cope with migraines. His articles have also been featured on many mental health websites around the web. His interview credits include (though are not limited to) the Huffington Post, BravoTV.com, the Fear of Flying School, and he has appeared on several radio shows and podcasts in the U.S. and U.K. for his various areas of specialty.
Contact Nathan with questions or to schedule an appointment.
* Nathan Feiles is available for media interviews and presentations in all areas of specialty.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker: State of New York (License Number R081198), State of California (License Number 63888)