I believe an effective therapy starts with the relationship that we build in our work together. My priority is to understand you and your needs while providing an environment that is warm, safe, supportive, and genuine for you to work through difficult and painful life struggles. There is no judgment or pressure here.
At our first session, I’d like to learn about you and what you are going through and struggling with. Going at your pace, I want to get to know you as a person, not only the struggles, but also your interests, motivations, and anything else that makes you who you are.
It is also possible to come in for therapy not fully knowing what it is you’d like to change, or where it is you’re looking to end up. This is okay and actually very common. You may know that something needs to change, though not be sure of what or how. The answers often take shape organically as the process unfolds.
Emotional healing is possible when we are feeling connected, heard, and understood on a deeper level. After first getting to know you and what you are struggling with, I aim to support you through a reflective process while illuminating and working through life patterns that are obstacles to balance, fulfillment, and feeling well, overall. Self-awareness is an important part of the process, but not the end goal in the process (which is often misunderstood with therapy). As we come to understand the deeper psychological, emotional, and relational patterns holding you back from where you want to be with your life, we are more able to work through the emotional elements that have perpetuated these patterns so you can move forward.
As an integrative therapist, I generally start with a relational psychotherapy foundation in our work. As we progress, I also utilize a range of techniques, as appropriate. These can include contemporary psychoanalysis, affect regulation, grounding, relaxation techniques, focusing, mindfulness, cognitive-behavioral (CBT) techniques, and others.
The approaches we will use in our work are always based on what makes the most sense for you and are decided together.
Nathan Feiles is an integrative psychotherapist and contemporary relational analyst in full time private practice in New York City. He works with individuals, couples, and groups locally, as well as with individuals nationally and internationally via online coaching.
All forms of Anxiety, patterns of Relationship struggles, Depression and chronic sadness/low energy, specialized Fear of Flying method, Commitment difficulties, Infidelity (being cheated on, or cheating), Creative Blocks (for performing and creative artists), and coping with life with Migraines. See all other services offered here.
In addition to his therapy practice, Nathan also works with people all over the world in various areas of coaching. These coaching specialties include fear of flying — using an internationally recognized method that Nathan created for helping people overcome this fear; grass is greener syndrome — helping people work through a repetitive dilemma of craving starting over versus settling down; setting boundaries in relationships and life — helping people actualize the often complicated task of setting boundaries with themselves and others; coping and living with chronic migraines — helping and supporting people to be able to build the life they want even when dealing with a chronic condition.
Balanced Flying Method
Nathan is also the originator of the Balanced Flying Method — an internationally recognized approach to helping people overcome fear of flying. The method is based on addressing the four major areas of psychology and emotion that tend to feed fear of flying for people. It is unique in that it is person-focused. While the method has an overall structure to it, it is designed to incorporate your own personal history into how the method is applied. As fear of flying originates differently for everyone, the method is based on your own needs, rather than a blanket approach.
Nathan Feiles earned his M.A. in Social Work (MSW) from New York University (NYU), and is licensed in clinical social work (LCSW) in both New York State and California, with the ‘R’ privilege in New York (the ‘R’ privilege allows people in NY state to utilize their out-of-network insurance benefits to work with Nathan).
Nathan has completed a 4-year postgraduate training in comprehensive psychotherapy and contemporary analysis at the National Institute for the Psychotherapies (NIP) in New York City, where he remains affiliated today.
Articles & Interviews
Nathan has been a regularly featured writer on various areas of mental health and relationships on PsychCentral.com and TheMighty.com, and has also been a guest writer for Migraine.com. His articles have also been featured on many mental health websites. His interview credits include (though are not limited to) the Huffington Post, BravoTV.com, the Fear of Flying School, and he has appeared on several radio shows and podcasts in the U.S. and U.K. for his various areas of specialty.
Contact Nathan with questions or to schedule an appointment.
* Nathan Feiles is available for media interviews and presentations in all areas of specialty.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker: State of New York (License Number R081198), State of California (License Number 63888)