As the new year approaches, people often take the opportunity to re-evaluate who they are and consider the changes they’d like to make in their lives. This is something people would benefit from doing the whole year round — reflecting on the choices we make, the way we treat others and ourselves, our commitment to … More 8 Ways to Be a Better Partner in 2014
This is the “part 2” to the article “10 Signs You May Be in an Unhealthy Relationship“. It was brought to my attention that in the first article I made points of the things to keep an eye on, however I made few suggestions of how to handle those ten points. So this article is … More How to Change a Struggling Relationship Into a Healthy Relationship
Technically, a relationship needs to only be defined by the people who are in the relationship. What is a “good (or healthy) relationship” for two people may be completely different than a “good (or healthy) relationship” for two other people. However, there is a difference between a relationship having its own shape and character, and … More 10 Signs You May Be in an Unhealthy Relationship
There are many perspectives on why relationships don’t always last, and more than one theory has validity to it. I’m going to present a theory I call the “broken mirror” theory. Attraction has many levels to it, as well as a deep psychology underlying what draws us to certain people. But one general concept seems … More Why Relationships Break Up
What does that even mean, anyway…life is a fluid? (Some may prefer to say “liquid”, but I’m sticking with “fluid”). People often perceive life as a series of idealized milestone events, all of which have general time markers on them. Some learn to drive around age 16-18; at 18 they graduate high school and maybe … More Life Is a Fluid, Not a Solid
Relationships all have their bumpy moments. Some happen more than others, but relationships that last are able to move forward from these moments without getting caught up in the bumps for lengthy periods of time. One of the notable issues I’ve witnessed time and again in my practice are opposing (and complementary) processes that often … More Ending Arguments
How many times have you been on the receiving end of a grudge? It’s not an easy place to be. Generally when someone has a grudge against you, anger, blame, contempt, and other forms of hostility and aggression are being projected. Often, grudges are done in silence (passive-aggressive). For some people, being on the receiving … More Grudges: Who Really Suffers?