I have to admit, as a therapist with many years of training, and still aiming to improve my work every day, it always frustrates me when I hear people equate the delicate and challenging nature of psychotherapy with talking to a friend. Sure, therapy can at times involve a venting quality, and this is completely … More Can Talking to Friends Really Replace Therapy?
This year on Christmas day and New Year’s day, try turning off your phones, tablets, and computers for the day. Be in the present with those closest to you and try to disconnect from mental escape routes, such as texts, emails, social media, etc. It may be a challenge at first, but it will help … More Strengthen Your Relationships This Holiday…
What is your New Year’s resolution? This is one of the fun points of turning the calendar — reflecting on the past year and considering our goals for the next 365 (or 366) days. I have heard many well-intentioned resolutions for healthy personal improvements: make new friends, eat less dessert foods, quit smoking, conquer a … More New Year’s Resolutions: Making Them Last
Confrontation with anyone, let alone our friends, can be difficult. One of the skills we hope to develop is how to speak up for ourselves and advocate for our needs with other people. This doesn’t only mean learning how to ask for what we want, but also learning how to confront others when we feel … More Too Much Confrontation?: (Confronting Friends, Part 2)
Many of us have been through it before: someone we know well offends us or hurts our feelings. At first, it’s just a single incident, but then it starts to repeat. Eventually, we realize the issue isn’t just an occasional unpleasantry, rather it’s a limitation in our friend’s personality. For example, a friend who is … More Confronting Friends: Part 1
Are you feeling unmotivated, stagnant, or bored recently? Is there a sense that your days are repetitive or routine? If not, feel free to read on anyway just for fun. These emotions tend to have something in common: passivity. We’re waiting for something to happen, something to change, something to move us forward in our … More Life’s Checkpoints — Creating Motivation and Happiness
So this is a bit of a different post than what you’re probably used to reading on this blog, but it’s good to change it up a little. Whenever I see an episode of Friends the topic of Ross and Rachel’s relationship captures my attention. And after 10 seasons and the series finale of Friends, I … More Relationships: What happened to Ross and Rachel??