One of my specialties in my practice is working with people who struggle with various forms of anxiety, including social anxiety. And it’s a consensus that small talk is a thorn in most people’s sides. Small talk is something that has the appearance of being easy — and some people do master the art of … More Why Small Talk Causes Anxiety
I recently went out to a social event — a friend’s gathering in the park. I was feeling so socially anxious that I just didn’t know what to say to people. Occasionally I was able to say ‘hi’ to someone, or someone would approach me and I was able to engage in a little bit … More Does Anxiety Make You Off-Putting?
This post is part 2 of a 3 part social anxiety series. Please click here if you’d like to read part 1 before continuing. Otherwise, read on. There is something that I call the “Social Anxiety Window”. This is the amount of space and leeway where people feel comfortable when having a social conversation. For example, … More The Social Anxiety Window
Some people look forward to social situations and seem to thrive off of them. Many others have a more difficult time with social situations, leading people to cancel plans, skip out on social events, or attend, but find themselves uncomfortable and looking for ways out the whole time. In my practice as a psychotherapist and … More Social Anxiety: The Dreaded Conversation
It’s amazing the benefits something as simple as a Dry Erase Board can bring to a relationship. A very common complaint couples bring into therapy is how forgetful the other is when it comes to daily schedule, or necessities that need to be picked up, etc. These often serve as the catalyst for significant arguments … More Technique of the Week: The Dry Erase Board
If you’ve read part 1 and part 2, I hope they have been helpful in learning more about social anxiety and the complexity of its nature. This will be the last post in this mini social anxiety series, which will focus on overcoming social anxiety and meeting people. Social anxiety shares psychological avoidance properties with other phobias. Basically, the … More Overcoming Social Anxiety: How to Meet People (Social Anxiety part 3 of 3)
In part 1, we discussed what social anxiety looks like and the various ways it can appear in people’s lives. But where does it come from? There are many views on how social anxiety develops. Some people believe that if they had parents who were quieter or didn’t socialize much that they just inherited this type … More How did I get here?? (Social Anxiety part 2)