There are many perspectives on why relationships don’t always last, and more than one theory has validity to it. I’m going to present a theory I call the “broken mirror” theory. Attraction has many levels to it, as well as a deep psychology underlying what draws us to certain people. But one general concept seems … More Why Relationships Break Up
Relationships all have their bumpy moments. Some happen more than others, but relationships that last are able to move forward from these moments without getting caught up in the bumps for lengthy periods of time. One of the notable issues I’ve witnessed time and again in my practice are opposing (and complementary) processes that often … More Ending Arguments
How many times have you been on the receiving end of a grudge? It’s not an easy place to be. Generally when someone has a grudge against you, anger, blame, contempt, and other forms of hostility and aggression are being projected. Often, grudges are done in silence (passive-aggressive). For some people, being on the receiving … More Grudges: Who Really Suffers?
I’m sure we’ve all encountered people who think the way they live their life is the “right” way. According to these people, everyone who lives life according to values that don’t align with their own needs to conform. They tend to spend more time judging and criticizing how others live their lives, rather than paying … More The Quickest Way to Destroy Your Relationships
Assumptions have the ability to destroy relationships, and indeed they do just that. Assumptions can be direct, or indirect. A direct assumption is basically a thought that a person believes in, regardless of the validity of the thought. The thought may have no connection in reality, but the person assumes that the thought is true, … More Assumptions Are Toxic to Relationships
Relationships tend to be the most balanced when the foundation is strong. If you can get the basics down, you’re much more likely to have a long-lasting and happy marriage. Here are nine steps to a happy marriage (or non-married relationship): 1. Worry about your own relationship. Couples can make the mistake of paying too much attention … More 9 Steps to a Happy Marriage